Struggling to Pray Together? | How to Pray With Your Spouse (Even When It’s Hard)
- Mar 30
- 2 min read
Let’s be honest, praying together as a couple isn’t always easy.
Some days you feel spiritually connected and aligned, ready to seek God together. Other days? You’re tired, distracted, maybe even a little frustrated with each other. And in those moments, prayer can feel like the last thing you want to do. But here’s the truth: The moments you don’t feel like praying together are often the moments you need it the most.
Why It’s Hard Sometimes
Life gets busy. Emotions run high. Miscommunication happens. Sometimes pride creeps in, or one of you feels disconnected from God or from each other. You might think: “I’m too tired.” “It’ll feel awkward,” or “We’re not even on the same page right now.” And yet, those are the exact spaces where God wants to meet you.
Prayer Isn’t About Perfection — It’s About Presence
Praying together doesn’t require perfect words or perfect timing. It simply requires willing hearts.
Even a short, simple prayer can shift the atmosphere in your marriage. It softens the heart, and it invites peace. It reminds you that you’re not fighting each other; you’re standing together. God shows up when you show up — even when you don’t feel like it.
“For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” — Matthew 18:20 (NIV)
What Happens When You Pray Together Anyway
1. Walls Come Down: Prayer has a way of breaking through tension. It’s hard to stay angry when you’re holding hands and seeking God together.
2. Peace Replaces Pressure: Instead of trying to fix everything on your own, you release it to God — and that brings peace.
3. Unity Is Restored: Prayer shifts your perspective from “me vs. you” to “us with God.”
4. Your Faith Grows Stronger Together: Even small, consistent moments of prayer build a deeper spiritual connection over time.
How to Pray Together (Even When You Don’t Feel Like It)
Keep It Simple
Be Honest
Take Turns
Make It a Habit, Not a Mood
It doesn’t have to be long. Start with 30 seconds if that’s all you have. God already knows your hearts. You can say, “Lord, we don’t even know what to say right now, but we need You.” One person starts, the other finishes, or you can both just agree to a short prayer together. Don’t wait until you feel like it. Let prayer become part of your daily rhythm.
Action Step
Tonight, before bed or before you start your day tomorrow, pause and pray together, even if it feels uncomfortable. Start with something simple:
“Lord, help us stay connected to You and to each other today. Give us patience, understanding, and love. Amen.”
That’s it. Start there.
Final Thought
You won’t always feel like praying. But love and faith aren’t built on feelings alone. They’re built on choices.
When you choose to pray together, especially in the hard moments, you choose:
Unity over distance
Grace over frustration
God over everything
And that choice has the power to transform your marriage.
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