Great Books for a Marriage Refresher

“Even the healthiest marriages need time to reconnect, reflect, and refresh.”

Marriage is a gift—but life gets busy. Between work, parenting, church, and everyday responsibilities, it’s easy to drift into routine. A marriage refresher can be exactly what your relationship needs—and reading together is one of the most powerful ways to spark fresh conversations and connection.

Below are a few of our favorite books that have helped couples grow closer, communicate better, and rediscover joy in their journey together.

📘 1. The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman

Understanding how you and your spouse express and receive love is a game-changer. This book identifies five unique love languages and how to speak them fluently in your relationship.

🟢 Best for: Emotional reconnection and showing love in meaningful ways.

📙 2. Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

This biblical approach reveals how men and women often miss each other’s core needs—he needs respect, she needs love. The “crazy cycle” stops when we learn to give what the other truly needs.

🟢 Best for: Improving communication and breaking frustrating patterns.

📗 3. You and Me Forever by Francis & Lisa Chan

This is a bold, eternity-focused look at marriage. It’s not just about building a happy life together—it’s about building God’s kingdom, side by side.

🟢 Best for: Couples who want a Christ-centered marriage with eternal purpose.

📕 4. Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas

This book asks a deep question: What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy? It challenges couples to grow spiritually through the ups and downs of married life.

🟢 Best for: Spiritual growth and long-term perspective in marriage.

📔 5. Marriage After God by Aaron & Jennifer Smith

Marriage isn’t just for us—it’s a ministry. This book guides couples to grow together in faith and live with purpose, using real-life stories and practical challenges.

🟢 Best for: Couples ready to go deeper and make their marriage a mission.

How to Make It Fun: Read Together!

Why not make reading a shared experience? Here’s how:

• Choose one book and commit to one chapter per week

• Turn it into a weekly “book club date night”

• Share takeaways, reflections, and prayers

It’s not about fixing each other—it’s about growing together.

What’s Your Favorite Marriage Book?

Have you and your spouse read something that refreshed your marriage? Drop it in the comments—we’d love to hear what helped you grow!