5 Questions to Ask Your Spouse This Week (That Go Beyond “How Was Your Day?”)

Let’s be honest — we’ve all fallen into the “How was your day?” routine.

It’s well-meaning, but after the 500th time, it sounds more like background noise than a real connection. Marriage isn’t just about sharing a home, a bank account, or a Netflix password — it’s about staying emotionally in tune with your best friend.

This week, try breaking out of autopilot mode with a few intentional questions that spark real conversation, laughter, and maybe even a little vulnerability.

1️⃣ “What made you smile today?”

It’s simple, but powerful. This question helps your spouse reflect on something positive and gives you a peek into what brings them joy.

Bonus: it sets a thankful, uplifting tone for your evening instead of defaulting to complaints about traffic or work emails.

2️⃣ “What’s been on your mind lately that you haven’t shared?”

We all carry things we don’t always talk about — worries, ideas, even small victories. This question opens the door for honesty and emotional intimacy. Remember, listening without fixing is key here. Sometimes your spouse doesn’t need a solution — just your presence.

3️⃣ “How can I make you feel more loved this week?”

This is a game-changer. It turns your focus toward service and connection, just like Christ’s love for us — selfless and intentional. You might be surprised by the answer! Maybe they want more quality time, words of affirmation, or simply a hug before work.

4️⃣ “What’s something fun we could plan together soon?”

Marriage shouldn’t be all serious talks and to-do lists. This one keeps your friendship alive and reminds you that laughter and adventure belong in love, too. Whether it’s a movie night, a fall hike, or a spontaneous dance in the kitchen — shared joy builds connection.

5️⃣ “Where have you seen God working in our lives lately?”

This question shifts the conversation from daily tasks to divine perspective. Reflecting together on God’s faithfulness strengthens your spiritual bond and deepens your sense of purpose as a couple.

Final Thought

Strong marriages aren’t built by grand gestures alone — they grow through daily moments of intentional connection.

So, this week, skip the routine question and lean in with curiosity, kindness, and love. After all, when your spouse is your best friend, every conversation becomes a chance to draw closer to each other and to God.

Try this challenge: Ask one of these questions each night this week — and watch how the conversations change the atmosphere in your home.